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Dear Dr T,
I have to share a room with my twin sister who is obsessed with Hello Kitty. Our 13th birthday is coming up and all I want for it is to redecorate our babyish room. But every time I try to take down the “Say Hello to me when you see me” Kitty poster or even just move her Hello Kitty piggy bank to her side of the room, it sends my sister into major melt down mode. I don’t want to upset her but I really want a big kid room or at least my side to be like that. What should I do?
 
Signed,
Tired of Living in a NURSERY!
Dear Tired of Living in a NURSERY,

I understand you want to have a big kid room, however even though both of you are teenagers now, each of you has totally different taste. Your sister enjoys Hello Kitty and there is nothing wrong with that. You both need to be able to express your own personality as to what character, singing group, teenage fashions whatever it may be on your side of the room. I would recommend you talk to your parents about the possibility of putting up a room divider of some kind. Not only will this give you and your sister space to put whatever you want on your side of the room, it will give both of you the teenage feeling of having your own room. This way you can be twins forever, but you can express yourselves and not be upset with each other. Hope this helps!

Dr. T

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Dear Dr. T,
I want to have a sleepover at MY HOUSE for a change with my friends but mom says the chaos would be too much for my brother. My friends don’t understand why they can’t come over and honestly, neither do I!
Signed,

Girls just Want To Have Fun

Dear Girls Just Want To Have Fun,

I know your mom is being protective of your brother by not wanting to have a lot of noise which would upset him. She is also trying to make you happy by letting you go to sleepovers and have fun at your friends houses. My suggestion at this time would be to talk to your mom and ask her if she would be willing to let you and your friends have a play date at your house to begin with. Talk with her about starting off with a 3-4 hour play date with you and your friends; maybe some of the time in your room and the rest of the time outside with your friends. After this you and your mom can see how your brother reacts to small time frames of being with you and your friends. If your mom sees this going well she may be willing to increase the time to possibly 5-6 hours the next play date until before you know it, your friends and you will have a sleepover at your house. This way by going slowly your brother won’t be rushed into a lot of chaos and noise with an instant sleepover and your mom wont have that fear. Sometimes the best of times are well worth the wait! Good Luck!

Dr. T

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Dear Dr. T,
I really really want a dog but my mom says that she has her hands full already just dealing with me and my brother who has autism. My little brother loves dogs just as much as I do. How can I prove to her that having a dog would be a great thing for our family?
 
Signed,
Puppy Love
Dear Puppy Love,
I remember getting my first dog and like you I was very excited. But  just like your mom, my mom didn’t want to take on more responsibilities of a dog, in addition to her working and taking care of our family. I had to prove to my mom I would be responsible and that having a dog would not add any stress onto her. I did  that too! One of my friends and his family were going out of town for the weekend and were going to put their golden retriever in doggie daycare. I convinced my mom to let me take care of my friend’s dog for him for the weekend.  It was my way of showing her how responsible I was with taking care of a pet and to show how my step-sister who had autism would interact with a dog in the family.  By the end of the weekend not only did my step-sister love the dog, my mom & dad saw how loving, caring and responsible I was.  My mom agreed to get a dog for our family. We  got a golden retriever too, which  by the way is a breed known as a healing dog for children who have autism.
Dr. T
 Tiffany Foster, PhD, LCAS-P  (aka Dr. T)

Tiffany is a licensed Clinical Mental Health Professional which is really just a fancy way of saying she talks and helps people with their problems.If you have a question you would like to ask Dr. T. ask your parents first, then send it to shoutoutonlinemagazine@yahoo.com.

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